Hello :-) I'm here to finish posts dedicated to communication, but it will not end today because I was reminded so many different things to write and give you tips ... I'll have end up in another post! This
also because I want to finish well and comprehensively this topic, which I believe crucial to our growth and for human evolution!
Remember that knowing how to communicate is the mirror of our inner evolution!
At the end of my post is a "business proposal" ...
Well, let's start with a summary of the most important concepts expressed in the posts:
1) Men and women are social beings, so you can not not communicate!
The problem is what we communicate, how we do in our conversations, and if we can really communicate what we want!
2) We live in a "social time" very special because we are a very advanced society in the media, but paradoxically really communicate among people has become increasingly difficult!
3) Communication problems that we involve all aspects of our lives, our inner nature, social, and spiritual.
4) not know how to communicate is often the symptom of an inner block or trauma in childhood and adolescence!
5) No one taught us to communicate: - / I family, neither religion nor society ... in fact the pressures that come from this "unholy trinity" are the cause of almost all our common problems. Accordingly, we must purify from all these bad examples, heal our wounds and work out a new direct and sincere communication!
6) The majority of the words that we express in a speech not communicate at all ... in fact serve only to vent our energies in eccesso o succhiare le energie da gli altri!
Questo perché tutti noi siamo incosciamente dei potenziali “vampiri energetici”… e siamo anche noi stessi costantemente vampirizzati dalle altre persone e da altre Entità!
7) Parlare e comunicare sono due cose diverse!
Parlando molto (soprattutto le donne ;-)), si scarica la propria energia/tensioni o si assorbe incosciamente energia dall’altra persona… mentre il processo comunicativo comprende uno scambio energetico ad un livello vibrazionale più alto.
8) Spesso (usando la terminologia del Voice Dialogue), il Sé Interiore che comunica, non è lo stesso che ha pensato communicate what he wants ... so maintain an 'always vigilant attention to their internal processes and learning to listen, listen well that every inner self that speaks within us and observe what is expressed out ..!
9) True communication can only be "Aware Ego", or when there is self-centering and energetic connection with others!
10) communicate means first of all learn to listen.
listen and communicate are not "process" and verbal energy that can be forgotten when we talk with another person, because they are the father and mother of 'empathy toward the other!
lack of empathy, or the inability to see, hear, "respect the other than you," closes the connection with your heart, and therefore effectively prevents the deep communication.
11) Energy follows thought, which is a manifestation of the word ... so thought-word-power are connected!
12) All blocks and constraints that prevent us from communicating well with others and ourselves, can be improved, loose, cleansed, harmonized and manifested in the best possible way, through the inner work we do on ourselves .
As promised, now I try to give you some tips and tricks to "monitor" your level of communication, and improve ... ;-)
Throughout my life and my experience in the personal growth I have understood that there are "4 Pillars "of good communication:
1) a good-timing
2) constant attention to" who really is speaking within us "-
3) concentration (focus) on what we mean in reality -
4) energetic connection with the other person!
Point number one: good timing is fondamentale nel processo comunicativo con l’altro… il concetto è semplice, ma vedo che pochi lo applicano :-/.
Regola S.A.S.A: ovvero quando sei Stanca/o, sei Arrabbiata/o, ti senti Sola/o, sei Affamata/o… non comunicare niente di importante!
Ogni cosa che dirai sarà filtrata dai tuoi bisogni primari, e quindi non uscirà bene ;-).
Quindi…riposati, calmati, tirati su e mangia!
Dopo comunichi qualcosa a qualcuno e non prima, altrimenti non ti stupire se succedono casini o non vieni capita.
Lo stesso vale per colui che ascolta la tua comunicazione!
Per esempio se tu stai bene e vuoi dire qualcosa al tuo compagno, che però back from a bad day at work ... expect to relax a bit before we talk about serious things!
I have a suggestion to my students that I have often said, is "ritualized" the communicative moment!
We can talk when you want, but you can not always communicate ...
choose a right time of day and a different situation protected from distractions, to communicate with your partner or co-workers!
until of course you can ... I know you do not live in a perfect world.
Of course the couple, it would be nice that these moments were born ... but this happens very spontaneously more often in stories than in reality! made up of many hours spent at work, various casinos, children, and all sorts of distractions ...
A tip that works, is to put a time on the agenda of the week to organize the practical things with your partner, and one more " emotional "to tell the partner how you are, what you feel, what you want other ... and listen to each other.
To conclude this first point, I remind all women that men have to go "cave in" to retrieve my a bit ... so there is no greater mistake than to insist on talking to your partner when he wants to be quiet! ;-)
Before speaking, always made this question:
It 's the right time for me and the other party, to express what they want to communicate?
Point number two: constant attention to "who really is speaking within us" ..!
Here we are within the competence of Voice Dialogue, and is a vast and complex to explain in a little space but indicates the concept is what I expressed in the post ... that often we do not talk down ' Aware Ego , but the vulnerability , Or inner selves angry, offended
etc. ... It 's a matter of fundamental energy, and Italian women often who is speaking and who is actually "talking energetically" inner selves are different: - /.
I happen hundreds of times in my life heard a person (clearly the work I do, more women than men ...) who told me how he was, but I actually "felt energetically" that informed a whole ' else ...
Remember that all liars! : -0
It 's a disturbing truth I know, but it is a truth! Only rarely people
comunicano quello che veramente vogliono esprimere… normalmente gli esseri umani, mentono non sapendo neanche di mentire!!! :-/
Inconsciamente una persona attua dei filtri comunicativi (i soliti condizionamenti sociali, familiari e religiosi), che ne impedicono una “vera apertura espressiva”… e inoltre le persone normalmente non sono consapevoli dei loro processi interiori e quindi anche quando sono convinte di dire la verità, esprimono invece una loro verità parziale e condizionata!
Questo è un processo purtroppo “normale” tra noi occidentali… ma mi chiedo sempre se si possa considerare normale il livello comunicativo della nostra società..?!
Remember that the words a person can easily lie to you, but if you watch and know the rules of body language, it becomes more difficult ... but if you become sensitive to the energy that the person expresses, it becomes impossible to lie to you! ;-)
fact I just heard the words, look at the body signals, but also "feel" the energy with which you communicate to me ...
course, as usual, to get to this knowledge and energy necessary to exercise constant practice of "warning to others" ... but there are now commercially valuable books and courses that teach tricks to good communication and language body, which can help you. Free
but you can practice by observing the posture of your body when you speak, and the tone of your voice ... because they reveal a lot about you and who really is speaking within you! ;-)
Then, before you speak, always made these questions:-I am
unconsciously sucking energy / time to another person? I am unconsciously giving
-energy / time to another person?
I'm really talking from my-Aware Ego? -Some
my inner self is talking to "my place"?
Well finish this second post reminding you that good communication, like all the rest, you learn sperimentando… e che nel prossimo parlerò del punto 3 e 4, ovvero degli altri due pilastri della buona comunicazione:
-concentrazione (focus) su che cosa vogliamo dire in realtà-
-connessione energetica con l’altra persona-
Ti donerò anche altri buoni trucchi per imparare a difenderti dalle persone che sono dei “vampiri energetici” :-).
Ciao, un abbraccio dal cuore, Simone.
P.S: ricordati che puoi lasciare un tuo commento qui sotto ;-)
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